Wine & Wellness Wednesday: Obesity & Cancer & Coaching

A recent medical news story about obesity & cancer caught my attention. Obesity is being linked to an increase of certain cancers in the generation known as Millenials. I am obese, based on my BMI, even though I continue to lose weight, my vital statistics are good, and I’m trying to be active. Even though I am in the age range considered Generation X, that age range is included when the authors of the articles reference ages 24-49. I am also a cancer survivor, and thinking about an increased risk of other cancers based on age range and weight is scary. 

Everyone who is struggling with being overweight comes to that struggle differently. Whether it’s a lifetime of bad eating habits and a sedentary lifestyle, or a catastrophic change that leads to different habits, weight gain can be an insidious, slow-moving monster. Suddenly it seems as if your jeans don’t fit, or you can’t catch your breath after going up a flight of stairs. Maybe you know what I mean.

It also isn’t something we enjoy talking about. Between fat shaming, diet shaming, diet rollercoasters, and the immense pressure from advertisers, the media, and each other to be thin, being overweight is more than a personal issue. It’s shameful, degrading, and we are judged. “You’d be so pretty if you lost weight.” “Your health would be better if you lost weight.” “You’d feel better and be able to do more things if you lost weight.” Yes, we know. It’s frustrating enough to be on the weight loss-gain rollercoaster. Those so-called well-meaning comments are not helping. And, clearly, we have a problem. Nearly 70% of adults in the United States are overweight or obese. Let that sink in for a moment. More than 225 million people are overweight or obese.

Cancer is a gigantic and scary word. It conjures up images of needles and IV drips, radiation and lost hair, exhaustion and lost work or lost time with loved ones. I am one of the lucky ones; my kidney cancer was surgically removed and I had no chemo or radiation. I’m now ten years cancer-free, and I am grateful. Too many other patients have much, much worse experiences.

When I read the information on how obesity leads to higher risks for cancer, it’s terrifying. I will also note that obesity itself is not the only risk factor; lifestyle choices, genetics, activity levels, and so on are contributing factors as well. Obesity is a complication, not the only factor, and obviously it’s something we need to deal with. It is also an obstacle to surgeries such as joint replacement, as a high BMI is a risk factor for post-surgical infections. This leads to a frustrating and debilitating vicious circle from which it seems there is no escape. “You need to lose weight before we can replace your knees.” “It hurts to move, and I’m gaining weight not losing.” Etc., etc., etc. Every day is a struggle when you’ve learned certain behaviors, or when you’ve fallen into certain habits. Eating from boredom, or stress, or sadness, or celebration, particularly without care for quality or calories, and without exercise or activity to burn those calories, leads to weight gain. Again it feels like a vicious circle. Breaking those habits is hard. 

Breaking those habits is also a daily struggle. Some things seem like common sense. Do I want to snack more than I want to lose weight? (Most of the time, no.) Do I really need to eat that much pasta? (Absolutely not.) Am I happy I seem to have broken the habit of eating potato chips? (Completely!) And so on, and so forth…I’m retraining myself to disobey certain cues. When I go to X location, I always get X treat. Except now I’m thinking to myself, “I don’t need that, I have X at home I will enjoy more.” Easy? Nope. Worthwhile & rewarding? Absolutely. I measure things now. I’m even getting better at measuring things like pasta and limiting how much I cook! In the past I resented that concept; now I’m enjoying it and appreciating that a serving is more than enough. I look for alternatives when I want certain things such as potato chips. I avoid excessive drinking, both because A) calories but also B) excessive snacking. Somehow, it’s easier to eat (and eat poorly) when drinking alcohol! I drink lots (LOTS) of water. Water is one of my favorite beverages, and it’s one of my favorite discussion topics. (Let me know if you want to chat about why water is so important!)

Where does health coaching come into the equation? Everyone needs help and support. For me, it’s about positive accountability and making sustainable choices. It’s about celebrating accomplishments without beating myself up over mistakes. It’s about understanding the triggers and creating different responses. It’s about having fun with what I’m doing, such as meal planning with better choices. A health coach can help you do all of that, if you’re willing to dig in & do the work. One step at a time leads to progress. Just as it’s important not to binge on potato chips, it’s important not to binge on making changes. I believe everyone has the capability to dig in and make those positive, sustainable changes!

Cheers! Here’s to your health!

Wine & Wellness Wednesday: Scale or No Scale? An Update!

For this week’s #winewellnesswednesday, I’m looking back at my general thoughts about the difference between weighing myself every day, as I did during April, and not weighing myself at all, as I did during May. I then decided to add a month to the experiment, so my full review of things will come on the first Wednesday of July.

Cheers! Here’s to your health!

04/30/2018: Weighed every day during April. Overall, it was interesting to weigh myself daily and see how it compared to what I felt about the previous day’s activity and eating. I didn’t anticipate being sick with a stomach bug twice or being severely limited in my exercise and activity due to an avulsion fracture in my right foot. So at the end of the month to have gained two & a half pounds instead of being steady or down was frustrating, but also understandable considering the circumstances. The daily weighing didn’t seem to add stress to my days and it was interesting tracking the up and down on my calendar. 4/30 is the last day I’ll weigh myself until June 1, and that is very, very strange to contemplate!

 

05/02/2018: Just a few days in and I’m finding myself missing the scale, which seems really odd. In April, weighing myself daily, even though I was ill & injured, helped keep me accountable to myself about what I was eating & my activity level. So far in May, not weighing myself is making me re-think whether to have creamer in my coffee or pick up a chocolate bar. That’s ok, but other than how I feel in my clothes I don’t have another tangible way to track my weight progress. It’s odd, but I feel guilty for not weighing in!

Update 05/08/18: I don’t like it. Maybe it’s the mood I’m in today, and I don’t think I’ve been excessively overeating so it’s probably what I’m eating, but I’m bloated and hot and feel icky and fat and I want to know what my weight is but I’m committed to myself to not use the scale again until 6/1. In April, weighing myself daily gave me regular progress reports and helped keep me accountable. I know I’ve been a little more slack about some of my eating and drinking habits. Now, more water. *gulp gulp*

05/24/2018: Wow, May seems like a really long month when I’m waiting for it to be over so I can check the scale. Aaaaaaand I just decided to add a month to the experiment. In April, I weighed myself daily and I liked it. In May, I haven’t weighed myself at all other than at a physician’s checkup, and I haven’t liked it. For the month of June, I’m going to go back to my old habit of weighing myself on Monday and Friday mornings, before and after exercise, and see how it feels compared to the way April and May felt.

05/30/2018: Almost the end of the May portion of the experiment, and I’m really looking forward to checking the scale and seeing whether the number fits how I’ve been feeling.

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Wine & Wellness Wednesday: Scale or No Scale?

For this week’s Wine & Wellness Wednesday, I want to talk about the scale. Have you ever thought about the impact that your scale can have on your overall wellness?

Think about it. Let’s look at some scenarios.

You’ve exercised daily and feel good about what you’ve been eating & drinking. You’ve been drinking a fair amount of water daily, and you’ve cut back on your consumption of junk food. More salads! Yay you! Then you get on the scale and WHAT?! The numbers are up? What’s your reaction?

You’ve watched what you’re eating and drinking, but you’re not exercising as much as you could. You get on the scale and WHAT?! The numbers are down? Awesome! But…now what?

You’ve exercised daily and feel good about what you’ve been eating & drinking. You’ve been drinking a fair amount of water daily, and you’ve cut back on your consumption of junk food. More salads! Yay you! Then you get on the scale and WHAT?! The numbers are down! Awesome! But…now what?

You’ve watched what you’re eating and drinking, but you’re not exercising as much as you could. You get on the scale and WHAT?! The numbers are up? Well, that’s to be expected, right? But…now what?

Maybe you don’t own a scale. Maybe you judge your weight by how you feel & how your clothes fit. Replace “the numbers are up” or “the numbers are down” in any of those scenarios with “my pants are looser” or “my pants are tighter.”

What’s really baffling is when the scale says one thing and the pants say something else, for example, the scale says “up” but the pants say “down” and OK FINE it’s confusing, but hey, muscle mass weighs more than fat and takes up less space. That’s an entirely different conversation!

If you use a scale, when and how often do you weigh yourself? Every day? Twice a day? Once a week? Once a month? Same time every time? Different times? Before meals? After meals?

My usual habit is to weigh myself first thing on Monday morning, and after I exercise on Mondays, and then again on Friday morning before and after I exercise. I thought about all of these things once recently when I weighed myself after a day of very little exercise and after breakfast the morning after the day of very little exercise. It wasn’t a great feeling. After losing the bulk of vacation weight, and making progress taking the numbers down again, I was up. I was briefly disappointed with myself and then I gave myself a good mental shake and a talking to. “I didn’t exercise yesterday, I had a large dinner, and I weighed myself after breakfast and coffee today. Why?! I know better!”

I didn’t let it affect my mood. I didn’t let it make me think, “Oh, I give up. Nothing I do will make a difference, so why do I bother?”

Everything makes a difference. I bother because I feel better. I check the scale the way I do because I like having the weight numbers to compare. I check my numbers against scales at doctors’ offices. I check my numbers against my past history. For me, it helps me feel I’m making progress and identify ways to make positive changes. And I acknowledge that I won’t always like the numbers, because sometimes I want to have that bag of chips and not worry about it.

As with so many other things in life, multiple opinions exist on whether to use a scale or to skip it. Some even recommend weighing yourself every day. I’m not sure what I think of that idea, honestly! I’m also not sure what I think of skipping the scale for good. I might try both options: skip the scale for several weeks, and weigh myself daily for several weeks, and see what happens.

What about you? Scale or no scale? What’s your thought process and your strategy?

Cheers! Here’s to your health!