Wine & Wellness Wednesday: Why I Don't Make Resolutions, and You Shouldn't Either

Holidays are weird. Time loses all meaning, and the days run together. I would have no idea what day it is, except I do actually know it’s Wine & Wellness Wednesday, as this topic has been percolating in my brain for a while. Ha!

It’s January 1st, and after the glitter and confetti (or the hangovers, or whatever) settle from NYE celebrations, many of us will make resolutions about things we want to change in the new year.

Eat better? Exercise more? Spend less? Sure! All the things.

Here’s the thing.

Do them because you WANT to, not because people (and by people I mean anyone outside of yourself) say you should.

Anyone who knows me knows I loathe the word, “should.” So if I’m using it, you can bet I have a point to make. To be honest, it has become such a visceral reaction I have to actively stop myself on occasion and not respond with, “You should stop shoulding all over me.” (Except with my husband, the poor guy. He gets that reaction. I should really work on that.) Society has gotten incredibly lazy: “Oooh, you should check that out,” instead of “Oooh, I think you’d enjoy that.” Or whatever. Should, to me, is a negative, weighted word, heavy with obligation imposed from outside ourselves.

But I digress. (Seriously. Are you surprised by this?)

I’m not a fan of resolutions. Frequently, resolutions sound good, and folks charge into the new year ready with high-minded, virtuous resolutions, only to find themselves in the same old habits and patterns.

I’m a fan of goals. Specifically, I’m a fan of SMARTER goals. My version goes like this: the goal needs to be specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and timely; as I make progress (or don’t), I evaluate and revise.

Every day has the potential for us to make a fresh start on a goal, or, if you must, a resolution. The most important thing is to have a plan for how to make that goal a reality. Eat better, or have an accountability partner (or coach), or save money, or whatever the case may be. Whether it’s January 1st, March 19th, or August 17th, that’s a day that you can wake up and decide to make a change.

What positive change are you going to make in 2025?

Cheers! Here’s to your health!

Wine & Wellness Wednesday: Gifts

It’s Wine and Wellness Wednesday, and Christmas Day is a week from today, and gifts are on many people’s minds this time of year. They’re on my mind as well, but a little differently. 

There are seven gifts on my mind, and all of them are things I can do for myself. By extension, each is something you can do for yourself. Need help? That’s what I’m here for! Get in touch for a complimentary initial consultation about how health coaching can make a positive impact on your health & wellness!

What are the gifts on my mind? Oh! Also? None of these need wrapping paper or gift receipts! 

Time.

Wellness.

Patience. 

Quiet.

Joy.

Peace.

Love. 

Each of these words, when framed as a gift you can give to yourself, is going to have different meaning for everyone. For example, patience. Both I and my hubby have colds, although we are both improving, and a couple of days ago when I put together my to-do list for the day, on the list, I included this item:

o   Give myself grace & forgiveness if I am too worn out to finish the list.

Why does that matter and how do I relate it to patience?

It is easy to be impatient with ourselves and to hold ourselves to impossible standards. Sometimes, I struggle making a to-do list because I feel as if it could be an infinite list that I’ll never get done. There’s an old phrase along the lines of “It’s ok to die with your inbox full.” (Or something like that!) Tomorrow is another day, and as long as the most important things are done today, that’s ok. Did I want to do the entire list? Of course. Did I get it all done? Heck no. But I was able to check off that item about grace and forgiveness, and that felt good.

The gift of wellness (especially from a health coach!) seems obvious. Sign up for an exercise class. Sign up for coaching! Make a plan for wellness goals. Cook something healthier. I’m going to combine wellness and time with this idea: commit to 15 minutes each day to do something for your physical wellness. Ride a stationary bike, or go for a walk, or jog, or whatever works for you. That time? That’s YOU time. That activity? That’s for your wellness. That’s a gift you can give yourself.

What resonates with you of the seven gifts I listed in this blog post? If you picked one, how do you define it for yourself?

My wish for you (and for us all) is a peaceful holiday season, filled with ALL of those gifts!

Cheers! Here’s to your health!

Wine & Wellness Wednesday: Leftovers Are Lovely!

<edit> Let’s pretend something together, shall we?? LOL!! Let’s pretend it’s still Wednesday and I posted this on time as planned…instead of losing track of time. And, to be honest, not everyone celebrates Thanksgiving either at all or ON Thursday…so this is totally still applicable! ;)

It’s the holiday season, and Thanksgiving is tomorrow. For many people, Thanksgiving means food. Lots of food. Lots of delicious food that maybe is only prepared once a year. There seems to be an automatic tendency toward stuffing ourselves (not just the turkey) and then regretting it later. So instead, how do we approach the holiday meals differently (and not regret them later)?

I posted a few years ago about leftovers being good for your mental, physical, and fiscal health.

This time, as we move into the holiday season, I want to talk about firstovers. (What? I can make up words!)

If you can, before you make your plate for the meal, package up a plate that you can take home or freeze for later. Why? You’ll get to enjoy all of your favorite holiday flavors again later, and since you’ve packaged up some of each thing for later, you can relax and savor what you’re eating without overdoing and regretting it. (The other idea is making smaller meals and somehow, this time of year, an awful lot of people don’t like that plan!)

Another idea is to make things that can be repurposed later for different recipes. (Turkey tetrazzini, anyone? Stuffing-crust turkey & cranberry pie? Great. Now I’m hungry.)

Firstovers, though. I love the idea of putting out containers that can hold a little bit of everything from the big holiday meal, letting folks dish those up for later, and then diving in and savoring the meal and the company.

How about you? How are you going to move mindfully through the holiday eating and enjoy yourself without regrets?

Cheers! Here’s to your health!

Wine & Wellness Wednesday: Holiday Season Sanity

It’s mid-November, and no matter how, when, or what you celebrate, the holiday season is almost guaranteed to goof up routines, habits, and the best-laid plans. (Seriously. Look it up sometime. When considering all the possible religious and secular celebrations, there are more than 30 that occur in just two months!)

So let’s talk about holidays and routines.

Schools are out for a lot of it, which means if you have kids or if you are a student, the schedule is off and that messes with everyone’s routines. Work is closed for some of it, which means the same. 

Simplest things?

Go to bed at the same time…or close. I mean who doesn’t love sleeping in on a Tuesday morning if you don’t need to be at work? Get up at the same time…or close. Changing your sleep & wake routine for the weird schedule during a holiday makes it harder to go back to normal when needed, and that just makes everything worse. I recently had a lousy three or four weeks of waking up one to two hours early and never getting back to sleep. Those days were awful. The days when I actually slept past 3 or 4 a.m.? Those days were SO much better. (Seriously…when the alarm is set for 5:21, because yes I have a nine-minute snooze, don’t judge me, and I wake at 3:45 or 4:15 and can’t get back to sleep? Those are ROUGH.) 

Exercise as normal…or close. On those days recently when I was having rough sleep issues, I exercised on some days and didn’t exercise on others. Want to guess which days felt better? Go ahead. I’ll wait.

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Did you guess that on the days that I exercised, I felt better? Very good!! 

Eat as normal…or close. I have another blog post marinating in my brain about meal planning and intentional leftovers, but that’s for a different day. Holidays mean special meals, family-secret baked goods that are only made once a year, and so on. Am I saying to skip all that? Oh heck no! We’ve developed a Thanksgiving tradition of Hungarian pork chops with my folks and I’m already salivating over here even though it’s a couple of weeks away. Could I make that recipe myself? Absolutely. Do I enjoy it as part of that holiday gathering with family? Absolutely! Also my mom makes a killer cheesecake and there are really good GF graham cracker crusts available nowadays so HECK yes I’m looking forward to Thanksgiving! But balance is important. Maintaining a little bit of routine and habit through all of the holiday craziness is important. Getting through December without feeling like you need a total reboot is important. (New Year’s resolutions are such a fraught topic!)

Drink LOTS of water. I am not going to say it’s easy; I struggle with drinking enough water when winter comes around and I’m less active outside. It’s difficult, but water is still a vital part of maintaining a healthy body and mind. Have the eggnog? YES. (Once again, don’t judge me, I love it! LOL!) Glass of wine, punch, whatever…yes! But drink water. Balance the alcohol consumption, if you drink alcohol, with water. Balance the festive non-alcoholic punch with water. But drink water. 

Simple things can make the biggest difference, and having support for those simple things is huge! Let’s have a conversation about how coaching can help you get through not only the holiday insanity, but make positive changes to feel better all year long!

Cheers! Here’s to your health!

Wine & Wellness Wednesday: Curiosity and Your Health

The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existence. One cannot help but be in awe when he contemplates the mysteries of eternity, of life, of the marvelous structure of reality. It is enough if one tries merely to comprehend a little of this mystery each day.
~Albert Einstein

I was curious about something recently, so I went looking for information. (HA! See what I did there?) I wondered if cultivating curiosity could have a positive impact on health. Thinking back to some events I’ve attended and some conversations I’ve been in, I realized that the ones I enjoyed the most were the ones where people were curious about things, and joyfully sharing and learning about and from other people around them.

And, as it turns out, yes. Curiosity can be good for you. (Google can be such a wonderful tool, can’t it?) (Curiosity killed the cat but satisfaction brought it back, right?) (Anyone else think that’s ghoulish?) (What’s with all the parenthetical tidbits today??)

Following your curiosity to learning something new is good for your brain. I posted about that back in 2017. It was interesting to note that as far back as that post I was trying, AGAIN, to knit, and I’ve finally, successfully learned and I keep knitting. Yay me!

If you’re curious about something and you spend time learning about it, or chasing it down, or trying new skills, you might actively be improving your health. See someone using a funky bike out on the trails? Maybe you try it and you get more exercise! See someone trying a new recipe? Maybe you try it and love it and eat better! See someone reading an interesting book? Maybe you check that book out and learn more about someone whose perspective is different from yours, and that helps build empathy, which is good for your heart.

If you’re curious about how health coaching can make an impact in your life, contact me and let’s set up a curiosity conversation! (See what I did there again?)

How are you going to apply curiosity to your life today?

Cheers! Here’s to your health!

Wine & Wellness Wednesday: Take Care of Your Gut!

A couple of months ago, I realized I hadn’t been posting my Monday Meditation Minute to this site. (I do love alliteration.) I’d been doing a Monday Meditation Minute on LinkedIn, Facebook, and Instagram, but not on the blog! So I started. And I’d been pretty consistent at it until this week. 

So. What happened?

Colonoscopy prep. 

Yep. All the gross and, honestly, funny things you’ve heard about the prep for a colonoscopy? They’re pretty much all true. 

Add in several days of not being able to take vitamins or my usual daily pain meds? I was pretty miserable and unfocused even before I started drinking the prep. 

Five years ago I had three polyps removed and one was apparently precancerous. (My memory was three but doc says no. So ok then!) So yay. I had to do it again sooner than ten years. 

Let’s be honest. Gut health is not a fun thing to talk about. Everybody poops (there are some really great kids’ books about that!) but nobody likes talking about it. It’s smelly. And can be messy. And uncomfortable. And all the things. 

And while colon cancer is not the worst cancer to have, cancer is still a scary word. And it can be devastating. I’m an incredibly lucky kidney cancer survivor; just surgery, no chemo or radiation. So was I worried? Of course. Was I incredibly grateful to wake up and learn my colonoscopy was clear this time and I don’t have to do it again for ten years? Absofrigginglutely. 

Am I focusing on gut health? Yes. Does cutting down on foods that cause inflammation help? Also yes. Can health coaching help you make those changes? Absolutely yes! Let’s talk about it!

What’s the first thing you’ll do for your gut?

Cheers! Here’s to your health!

Wine & Wellness Wednesday: Meditation to Get Unstuck

Read that title again; I bet you thought it read “Motivation” instead of “Meditation!” But maybe, just maybe, I can help you motivate yourself to try meditation, if it isn’t already part of your regular practice!

Oh, and for the record? I don’t give two hoots for what anyone says you should do properly for meditation. There’s no one right way to meditate. Does whatever you do to meditate work for you? Great! Then do that. Does what one of the experts says to do work for you? Great! Then do that.

Maybe it’s a minute in your parked car before you go in to your office first thing in the morning.

Or maybe it’s five minutes in your recliner after you’ve tucked your kidlet into bed for the fourth time after requests for “just one more story” or “I’m thirsty!”

Just maybe it’s first thing in the morning, on a bench in the back yard as the birds are singing up the sun at dawn.

And maybe it’s in the moments when you feel stuck, when you can’t decide which of the seventeen things on your to-do list need to be done next, and you stop to take a breath, repeat a favorite mantra, and then carry on with whatever.

I’ve blogged about meditation a few times over the years, and it continues to be one of the items in my wellness toolkit that I take out regularly and use at times other than my preferred morning meditation habit.

I have moments when I’m feeling just plain stuck. (Can you relate?) Can’t decide what to do next. Overwhelmed with ALL THE THINGS. In enough pain that I don’t want to do anything, no matter what’s on the to-do list. On occasion, I feel like my thoughts are a messy tangle, and I need to figure out how to slowly, carefully find the ends of each thought so I can roll them up into tidier balls.

At those moments, sometimes I’ll remember to take a deep breath and quietly repeat something along these lines from the late, very wise Thich Nhat Hanh:

In, out.
Deep, slow.
Calm, ease.
Simple, release.
Present moment, wonderful moment.

That is similar to this, slightly longer mantra:

Breathing in, I calm my body.
Breathing out, I smile.
Dwelling in the present moment,
I know this is a wonderful moment.

Meditation has many benefits. It can decrease your blood pressure, improve your concentration, and help you loosen up tense muscles. Those are all good things. And best of all? It doesn’t require hours and hours to do. (If you WANT to meditate for an hour, absolutely go for it!)

It can be that minute in the chaos that you take for yourself to get unstuck.

What positive mantra will you repeat to yourself for a meditation minute today?

Cheers! Here’s to your health!

Water & Wellness Wednesday: Why Water?

Hmm…considering how much water I have been drinking lately, today’s theme is definitely Water & Wellness Wednesday! Don’t get me wrong, I love a good glass of wine, but I also love alliteration and Water & Wellness Wednesday works! (Also, I love water. I realize that people find that odd. But that’s ok. I’m good at odd.)

I didn’t realize it’s been over three years since I last posted about water, but there you have it. Recently, when I finished a shower with COLD water (yikes that was brisk) I was reminded that in hot, hot weather, as we are starting to have in Iowa, staying hydrated is absolutely critical. Balancing between drinking enough water and drinking too much is also critical, and, yes, it is possible to over-hydrate. Let’s revisit some important info.

Why is water so important?

Go look at yourself in the mirror. You look pretty solid, right? (I mean, unless you’re a vampire. But I think then maybe there are other concerns if that’s the case…) Can you guess how much of the human body, on average, is made up of water? Depending on various factors, it can be anywhere from 50% to 70% water. Water is critical for your body to function properly. You also need various minerals and vitamins for your body to function properly, which is why over-hydrating is a concern. Water-soluble vitamins can leach out if you drink too much water and have to go to the bathroom a lot as a result. (Do you see now why it’s so difficult to find hard & fast rules about how much water to drink??) If you lose too much sodium you can have some pretty severe physical problems.

“But, Jolie, I don’t like drinking water. It’s boring.”

“Tough toodles, toots, drink up!”

Not all water tastes the same and not all water tastes good. Is this when I say not all water is created equal? But I digress. And, again, unless you’re new here, you are accustomed to that!

Strategies? Of course you know I’ve got them!

Get a filtered pitcher or water bottle. If you like cold water (I don’t), keep the pitcher/bottle in the fridge. Otherwise, give it a space on the counter. Buy bottled water. (And recycle those bottles, please!) Find low-calorie (or no-calorie) flavorings you can add to your water. Lemon juice is refreshing. Lemon juice (or lime juice) is also present in nearly every refrigerator in the country, or so it seems to me! Add a little lemon (or lime!) juice to your water.

Make some iced tea and drink it without sweetener. Have some really good black coffee! (Yes, such a thing exists! Also…coffee is good for you! No, really!) Tea and coffee are just water…with flavor, but without sugar and creamer they count toward your daily water consumption! Don’t know where to begin? I love making cold-brewed iced tea using herbal tea sachets from Epicure. I was drinking cold-brewed iced tea while I drafted, and black coffee while I edited. Hey. It’s a thing. I do attempt to live what I blog!

What’s your favorite thing about drinking water? If you don’t have one, what one strategy are you going to try with the goal of drinking more water?

Cheers! Here’s to your health!

Wine & Wellness Wednesday: Rest

How do you define rest?

I’m not talking about sleep. That’s an entirely different topic. ;)

I’m not even talking about R&R. Down time, vacation, whatever you want to call it? Also important.

 I’m talking about those moments in between the busy, in between the chaos, in between all the things.

One of the most difficult things in the world to do sometimes is rest, especially when making progress on something and when thinking to yourself, “Oh, just a few more minutes,” seems an easy thing to do. 

“Rest” has multiple definitions, whether you’re looking at it as a noun or as a verb, and for my purposes today we’re going to look at this one from Merriam-Webster:

to cease from action or motion : refrain from labor or exertion

To rest is to cease from action or motion, to refrain from labor or exertion.

We experienced a fairly nasty thunderstorm with high winds yesterday afternoon, and today I went out to deal with the aftermath of that storm in our yard.

We are lucky and incredibly grateful that the damage here wasn’t worse, that we didn’t have a tornado, that we never lost power, and that we were actually almost able to keep our dogs calm.

This afternoon, while I was outside enjoying a gorgeously balmy afternoon with few mosquitos as I moved around the yard to cut up the branches that had fallen, I set timers on my work and I intentionally included time to rest.

And while I rested, while I ceased action or motion, refraining from labor or exertion, I also refrained from scrolling through things on my phone. I tried to take a few photos of the GIGANTIC bumblebee exploring my garden, or the hummingbird that visited, or the robin that was hunting worms and insects, but mostly? I rested. I even meditated.

Those periods of rest between the periods of exertion to break down branches and clean up the yard? They were vital to feeling successful about my afternoon. Am I tired? Yup. Am I hurting? Also yup. Am I grateful for what I accomplished? Absolutely yup.

Wine & Wellness Wednesday: Feeling Sleepy?

Most of the content below is a repeat from a post in 2022…and yet, it’s still true.

Also?

It’s getting worse.

A recent AP News story caught my attention: only 42% of the people who took a recent Gallup poll felt they were getting enough sleep.

42%. And not the fun kind of 42, either. (Don’t panic! Do you know where your towel is?)

That’s not good.

Where do you fall? Are you getting enough sleep?

Cheers! Here’s to your health!

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I recently had an absolutely awful night’s sleep. I couldn’t get comfortable, I hurt, I couldn’t get into a good position for sleeping, and I woke up still tired. The day after the absolutely awful night’s sleep was also absolutely awful. I had multiple appointments and plans, all of which I cancelled because I could not face leaving my house.

Luckily, the following nights were much, much better, so it didn’t take me long to recover. But here’s the thing. Even a single night of poor sleep can have a negative impact on your overall health & wellbeing.

I’ve posted about sleep several times over the past however many years, mostly because World Sleep Day (in March!) reminds me to do so. LOL! I gave it more thought again recently because of the aforementioned lousy night’s sleep.

How much sleep do you need? How do you know if it’s quality sleep? Why does it matter?

Let’s start with that last question. Why does it matter? What does sleep do for you anyway, other than waste time you could be cross stitching or crocheting? (Oh, wait…that’s me. But I digress…)

Sleeping helps you form memories as well as holding on to and recalling details about your life and everything you have going on. (And let’s face it, our attention spans are decreasing, so recalling details about life is even more important.) Sleeping soundly helps rest your heart by decreasing your blood pressure. It also gives your body important down time during which your body repairs any issues that may have come up during the day, as well as fighting off any germs you may have encountered. Glucose levels drop when you’re sleeping deeply, which potentially helps fight off type 2 diabetes. A solid night’s sleep also helps with appetite control! It’s important for your mental health, too.

Ok, let’s go back to that second question. How do you know if it’s quality sleep? How do you feel when you wake up? Are you refreshed? Feel rested? Are you cranky, creaky, or grumpy? Check in with yourself for a few mornings in a row to see how you’re feeling. That will help you determine if you’ve slept well.

Last but not least because it was first on the list: how much sleep do you need? This really is the million-dollar question, isn’t it? Some people border on bragging that they function just fine on 4 or 6 hours of sleep. That may be true (I have my doubts) but it isn’t necessarily a good thing (reference all of the text above or the links I’m sharing later). The recommendations on hours of sleep are based on age, generally, but also depend on overall health and activity levels, which makes sense if you think about it. Infants? Experts suggest 12 to 15 hours a night. (Zoikes!) Teenagers? Eight to 10 hours. Older adults? Seven to eight hours. Honestly? It’s important for you to figure it out for yourself. How? I have ideas. (Of course I do.)

Start picking a bedtime and stick to it. If you can, try not to set an alarm and see if you wake up naturally and feel good about waking up, then see how many hours of sleep you’ve had. Try that for several days and see what happens. (I’ve become so accustomed to waking up between 5-5:30 a.m. that I ALMOST don’t need an alarm to do so!) Put away your technology; the light from cellular phones, tablets, and laptops messes with your body’s ability to get good sleep. Create a bedtime routine that helps you wind down, and stick to it, even on weekends and vacations. Make sure you have a comfortable place to sleep and a quality mattress and pillows. An awful lot of this seems like common sense…so why aren’t we sleeping better? “I’ll just check Facebook one more time,” and suddenly it’s 45 minutes later and you’re wide awake because you’ve had an argument over whether Star Trek or Star Wars is better.

(For the record? It’s both. Now move on.)

 Sleep. It’s good for your health. What are you going to do to sleep better? Cheers! Here’s to your health!

Wine & Wellness Wednesday: Resolutions, New Year’s or Otherwise

I found it intriguing that January 1st fell on a Monday this year. Fresh starts can happen any time, but many of us tend to wait for milestone dates: Mondays, significant birthdays, New Year’s Day, and so on.

I haven’t set New Year’s resolutions in years, but I do set goals and intentions. In 2014, I set a creative intention to cross stitch every day. A few years later, I added crocheting. Last fall, I added knitting. I mediate almost daily and I exercise five to six days a week. I’ve set two goals for my coaching practice this year. I’m working out what my Epicure business goals will be for the year.

The difference for me is that resolutions sound grand…until there is no plan to accomplish them.

Goals! I am a fan of SMARTER goals: specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, timely, evaluate, and revise.

“I want to eat healthier” sounds great. Everyone, this time of year, has a way for people to do exactly that. How? What are the action steps? Who is keeping you accountable? Are you having fun? Are you adapting where necessary? Why am I asking so many questions? (LOL! It’s a thing I do.)

Am I anti-resolutions? Nope! I want to lose weight and get stronger. Ok…that’s great…now what? I am going to replace _____ with _____ and do more of _____. Specifics are important. Most importantly? Why. What’s your why? WHY do you want to _________? I want to lose weight so I feel better in my clothes, and feel stronger so I have more stamina to do things. Why matters. Specifics matter. Positive accountability matters. (For example, by working with a coach!)

What are your goals? What are your intentions? What are your resolutions?

Keep in mind…a New Year’s resolution can be just something fun. What works for you?

Cheers! Here’s to your health!

Wine & Wellness Wednesday: Mess & Progress

In looking around my yard, I could say all I see are the weeds that need to be pulled or the dozen other projects that need attention. 

If I’m honest, that has been my default reply for a while when someone says, “Your yard looks great.”

It does. It does look great, and I am happy with my space. 

I do what I can, when I can. And that is not a bad thing. That’s actually quite a good thing. 

How often do you look at your…whatever. Life. Health. House. Goals. Pick one! How often do you look at whatever that is and think, “I have so much left to do!”

Do you ever stop and think, “Gosh but I have made progress! I’m not there yet, but I’m closer than I was.”

I have this thought often when I am weeding. The weather here has been…less than conducive to enjoying being outside. I’ve made time on nice days, after rain especially (and that’s been a whole different challenge), to get out into my yard and do SOMETHING. I’ve even, usually, remembered to take before and after pics because I can SEE what I’ve done. Perfect? Nope. Done? Nope. Better? Absolutely. 

There’s a phrase out there that goes something along these lines: “Perfect is the enemy of done.”

It’s so, so true.

We are, all of us, works in progress.

Some days we move forward. Some days, we don’t. Some days, we feel as if we are moving backwards.

Every day, we have the opportunity to make progress out of the mess.

Every day, we have the opportunity to celebrate where we are.

What are you celebrating today? Even if you still think whatever is a mess, give yourself time to celebrate the progress.

 Cheers! Here’s to your health!

Wine & Wellness Wednesday: Get a Buddy!

_____________ is more fun with a friend.

(Hey now! Come on – get your mind out of the gutter. It’s a family show!)

You could fill in that blank with lots of activities, but the one I’m focused on today is exercise. Whether it is going for a walk or going to the gym, having a buddy adds an extra oomph of accountability & encouragement to actually do it.

Yes. Oomph is a measurement. No, it isn’t precise. Yes, it’s different for everyone. Don’t look it up. Just trust me. It’s on the internet. That makes it true.

(Huh. Now I’m wondering about accountability buddies for things like meal planning…hmm…)

But I digress.

So. Why? If you enjoy working out alone, why get a buddy? I can think of at least three things: motivation, consistency, & encouragement.

Motivation can come in many forms. Maybe you’re competitive, and working out with a buddy inspires you to do a little bit more than someone else. Having someone to be accountable to also motivates you to actually show up. Even if it isn’t someone you meet up with to exercise, having a buddy text you & ask, “How’s it going?” can be a huge help! I have several exercise buddies by way of texts or emails and we check in with each other regularly. I’m also motivated to go walking with a friend because then we get some dedicated time together regularly!

Consistency counts. If you’re meeting someone and you’ve committed to it, you’re more likely to go regularly instead of staying in bed that extra half hour or going to happy hour instead of to the gym after work.

Wait a sec…gym happy hour of exercise followed by light beverages such as lemonade or herbal teas…Hmmmm…!!

Encouragement in the form of positive accountability is extremely important. And I keep saying that positive accountability is the key. Find a workout buddy who will encourage you & you can encourage them and together you’ll keep going!

Know your goals, interests, and capabilities. For example, while I can absolutely admire the friends who want to run half marathons or train for triathlons or whatever the case may be, I know full well that is not my bailiwick. I’m a stationary bike or elliptical or kickboxing kind of a person. I would not be a great workout buddy for a triathlete. Coach? Absolutely! At least in the form of my work as a health coach & accountability partner. Actually training for a triathlon? Y’all have fun with that. I’ll be over here on my elliptical machine.

What’s it going to take to get you moving? Who’s your exercise buddy? Who keeps you accountable – in positive ways – to keep going?

Cheers! Here’s to your health!

Wine & Wellness Wednesday: Handwriting for Health

I love a good quote and here’s one for today:

Write it down in your own handwriting. ~ Eugene Ormandy, conductor and violinist.

Not only did I write the draft of this by hand, I used a fountain pen! Fountain pens make it easier to write for long stretches without hand cramps. They’re also a thoroughly fun tool to use and there are a seemingly infinite number of pens & inks available in colors and price ranges to suit every person and every budget. But I digress.

Stop what you’re doing right now and find a slip of paper. Any size scrap of paper will do.

Got that scrap of paper? Find a pen. Fountain pen would be great but I realize the chances of my readers having fountain pens could be slim.

Got that scrap of paper and a pen? Ok.

Write something down. Anything. Write down something that’s bothering you, that you wish would change, that you want to work on. Whatever it is, write it down briefly.

Now, crumple that paper up. You’re not going to show it to anyone, or work on it, or anything. Pitch it into the recycling bin.

What was the point?

How do you feel?

Writing by hand has benefits that are more impactful than typing. For example, even just the act of sitting down to write by hand can reduce stress. (Journaling, anyone?) Writing about how you feel at a given moment can help improve your mood. It can provide catharsis; relief, even if temporary, from whatever is troubling you. Writing things down helps us feel calmer, which helps prevent the immune system from being off-kilter.

Writing by hand jogs creativity. It is slower than typing, so if something occurs to you as you are writing, jot it down quickly on a sticky note (I LOVE STICKY NOTES) or in the margins of the page. Because writing is slower than typing, it gives you more time to think.

Writing by hand helps increase memory and reinforces retention of the information. Taking notes during a meeting? Write them down by hand. It will help you process the information better and faster than trying to type them out. Writing activates a part of the brain tied to learning and memory.

Writing a to-do list (by hand!) helps free brain space for other activities. Write down tomorrow’s to-do list before bed and you may even sleep better!

Sometimes, when I am writing, I notice that the faster I am thinking, the faster – and sloppier! – my writing becomes. If I slow down and focus differently, then I am more careful about how I write. My writing is more legible and my thoughts are clearer.

Let’s go back to that activity I asked you to do at the beginning of this post. How did that feel? Imagine doing that daily, or weekly if you can’t do it daily. If you’re not a writer by habit already, write for one minute. Then for two minutes. Then, suddenly, maybe you’ve been writing for 15 minutes, you’ve gotten it all down on paper, it’s out of your head, you’re clearer and calmer and you can go on to something else. Whether you realize it immediately or not, your stress levels are down, and maybe, just maybe, you’ve done something good for your health.

Cheers!! Here’s to your health!

Wine & Wellness Wednesday: Life Is Short; Eat Dessert First. (AKA Chocolate Is a Health Food!)

I’m a little incredulous that I’ve only gone over the topic of dark chocolate as a health food once and it’s been over 6 years. Say…whaaaaaaat? So here’s another oldie-but-a-goodie…now pardon me while I go find some dark chocolate!

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Dark chocolate goes very well with red wine.  (Well, with most red wine, that is.) So for this week’s Wine & Wellness Wednesday, I have a little red wine and a square of 72% dark chocolate. (Yes, that number is important!)

Dark chocolate is also good for you.

Say…whaaaaat?

Yes!! Dark chocolate, in small doses, is a health food. (Sort of!)

Note that I specify “in small doses.” (So I’m fairly sure the chocolate tasting class I had when I was an undergrad was a bit excessive! I really loved that economic botany class...) No, a dark chocolate Snickers or Milky Way doesn’t count! (And if you’re having a little bit of dark chocolate, make that your dessert. It’s important not to overdo those calories! So having dark chocolate after you’ve had a piece of chocolate cake? No, that will not actually double the benefits!)

Let’s start with a quick look at why we love chocolate. Eating chocolate releases dopamine (a feel good transmitter) in your brain. That will improve mood and potentially help you relax.

What are the health benefits? Dark chocolate can lower blood pressure. It contains antioxidant compounds that are good for your heart. It is more filling than milk chocolate, so you need to eat less to feel full. It may reduce your stress hormones. It may even make you smarter!

What kind of dark chocolate should you look for? Make sure you’re buying at least 70% cocoa content, and not loaded with sugars or other additives. Keep it simple! It won’t be as sweet as that dark chocolate Milky Way Midnight, but it will be much better for you.

Cheers! Here’s to your health!

Wine & Wellness Wednesday: Little Changes Make Huge Impacts

After being an independent Epicure consultant since fall of 2019, I (and my hubby) finally signed up for the Epic Life Challenge for the spring of 2022. Meal planning, portion control, focusing on goals, and focusing on #NSV (non-scale victories) in addition to pounds and inches shed are the main features of the challenge, and this all goes well with my coaching philosophy. I needed a change & something new to do, so in addition to the Epic Life Challenge, I also joined a 9Round Fitness center and I have been LOVING kickboxing! But I digress. LOL! (I mean come on. You’re used to that from me by now, surely?)

I had a couple of absolutely gigantic non-scale victories this week that made me feel fantastic! We have had a few rough days with frightening medical news about family, and also with some frightening medical news about one of our dogs. One of my go-to, feel-better methods in olden days? Potato chips. Salt, crunch, and grease to make me feel better. Guess who did NOT, in fact, resort to potato chips at any point this week? That would be me. I also usually acknowledge that I’m likely to be too tired to cook after work on certain days, and we frequently get takeout that isn’t exactly great for us. I was absolutely exhausted and drained, and I made a meal anyway. It was easy, because I thawed some prepared sauce and I boiled some frozen, gluten-free (Jolie-safe!) ravioli, so the meal prep took a total of about ten minutes. (And now I need to make more of that sauce. LOL!) But it was also a MAJOR win because I had wanted very much to NOT go out for dinner…and we didn’t.

These were both little things and huge things all at once. Both I & my hubby are slowly but steadily losing weight, and we are making incremental, positive, sustainable changes to get it done. And we’re still having fun at the same time. (Glass of wine on #winewellnesswednesday, anyone? Don’t mind if I do.) We’ve also kicked up the exercise a notch, we’ve been drinking lots more water, and we are more thoughtful about what we’re eating.

What’s a little change that you can make in the next week to make a big impact on your life?

Cheers! Here’s to your health!

Wine & Wellness Wednesday: Sleep Matters

Is there anything better than a snoozy dog? Sleeping dogs…they’re an inspiration to us all to get good sleep!

I recently had an absolutely awful night’s sleep. I couldn’t get comfortable, I hurt, I couldn’t get into a good position for sleeping, and I woke up still tired. The day after the absolutely awful night’s sleep was also absolutely awful. I had multiple appointments and plans, all of which I cancelled because I could not face leaving my house.

Luckily, the following nights were much, much better, so it didn’t take me long to recover. But here’s the thing. Even a single night of poor sleep can have a negative impact on your overall health & wellbeing.

I’ve posted about sleep several times over the past however many years, mostly because World Sleep Day (in March!) reminds me to do so. LOL! I gave it more thought again recently because of the aforementioned lousy night’s sleep.

How much sleep do you need? How do you know if it’s quality sleep? Why does it matter?

Let’s start with that last question. Why does it matter? What does sleep do for you anyway, other than waste time you could be cross stitching or crocheting? (Oh, wait…that’s me. But I digress…)

Sleeping helps you form memories as well as holding on to and recalling details about your life and everything you have going on. (And let’s face it, our attention spans are decreasing, so recalling details about life is even more important.) Sleeping soundly helps rest your heart by decreasing your blood pressure. It also gives your body important down time during which your body repairs any issues that may have come up during the day, as well as fighting off any germs you may have encountered. Glucose levels drop when you’re sleeping deeply, which potentially helps fight off type 2 diabetes. A solid night’s sleep also helps with appetite control! It’s important for your mental health, too.

Ok, let’s go back to that second question. How do you know if it’s quality sleep? How do you feel when you wake up? Are you refreshed? Feel rested? Are you cranky, creaky, or grumpy? Check in with yourself for a few mornings in a row to see how you’re feeling. That will help you determine if you’ve slept well.

Last but not least because it was first on the list: how much sleep do you need? This really is the million-dollar question, isn’t it? Some people border on bragging that they function just fine on 4 or 6 hours of sleep. That may be true (I have my doubts) but it isn’t necessarily a good thing (reference all of the text above or the links I’m sharing later). The recommendations on hours of sleep are based on age, generally, but also depend on overall health and activity levels, which makes sense if you think about it. Infants? Experts suggest 12 to 15 hours a night. (Zoikes!) Teenagers? Eight to 10 hours. Older adults? Seven to eight hours. Honestly? It’s important for you to figure it out for yourself. How? I have ideas. (Of course I do.)

Start picking a bedtime and stick to it. If you can, try not to set an alarm and see if you wake up naturally and feel good about waking up, then see how many hours of sleep you’ve had. Try that for several days and see what happens. (I’ve become so accustomed to waking up between 5-5:30 a.m. that I ALMOST don’t need an alarm to do so!) Put away your technology; the light from cellular phones, tablets, and laptops messes with your body’s ability to get good sleep. Create a bedtime routine that helps you wind down, and stick to it, even on weekends and vacations. Make sure you have a comfortable place to sleep and a quality mattress and pillows. An awful lot of this seems like common sense…so why aren’t we sleeping better? “I’ll just check Facebook one more time,” and suddenly it’s 45 minutes later and you’re wide awake because you’ve had an argument over whether Star Trek or Star Wars is better.

(For the record? It’s both. Now move on.)

Sleep. It’s good for your health. What are you going to do to sleep better? Cheers! Here’s to your health!

Wine & Wellness Wednesday: Make One Change and Change Your Day

I recently had a day that became one of THOSE days. It started well enough. Decent-ish sleep, meditation, and really good exercise. Those are good starts to the day. And then, somehow, the day went PFFFFFFFFFFFFT. Or as I texted my husband, “OMGOLDFISH it’s become one of THOSE days.”

 Ugh.

 I kept thinking to myself, “If I do just one thing to make the next few minutes better or different, what will it be?”

 I had lunch.

 I cross stitched.

 I crocheted.

Cross stitching and crocheting are two of the creative activities that keep me grounded and almost always make me feel better. And I do them daily. So those activities helped in several ways.

I took a shower.

I moved some clutter out of one room by actually putting things back where they belonged. (Radical notion, that!)

And do you know what happened?

I felt better.

Did I solve the world’s problems? I did not.

Did I fix absolutely everything that’s making me a little bonkers at the moment? I did not.

Did I do one thing that made me feel better? I did. And then I did another. And then I did another. And then I was able to take a deep breath, settle my shoulders away from my ears, and look at the rest of the day with a great deal more equanimity.

I’ve got this.

I may not know what the this I’ve got is, but I’ve got this.

At least for now.

What’s one thing you can do right now to feel better? Everyone can make one positive, sustainable change a week to feel better. I genuinely believe it. And I do my best to live it. What’s your one thing today? Or this week? Or this month? Make one change and change your day.

You’ve got this. I still may not know what the this you’ve got is, but you’ve got this.

Cheers! Here’s to your health!

Wine & Wellness Wednesday: What’s a Serving, Anyway?

Whaddya mean the entire bag of sour cream & onion chips isn’t a single serving? According to whom? Who makes those rules??

 (Who, me? Potato chips? Yes. Not as frequently as in times past, but on occasion? Yes. But I digress.)

 Serving size and portion size can be difficult things to get right, and they’re not always the same thing. And they can be confusing. And they can feel a bit…unsatisfactory. Yeah, we’ll go with that. Unsatisfactory. And measuring things to get serving size right (so to speak) according to the nutrition labels? Gadzooks but that can be a challenge! I learned that I need to measure before I get too hungry, or I end up with way more than I need to eat and I frequently end up eating it all. Or I measure, and then I double it because that can’t possibly be enough, can it? (Usually? It would have been. Old habits are hard to break!)

 Oh and guess what doesn’t help?? Serving size can have two different meanings, depending on what you’re looking at! (The things I learn when I research these topics!)

 Portion: how much you eat.

 Serving size, according to the USDA MyPlate: how much of a particular category of food to eat.

 Serving size, according to the FDA guidelines for nutrition labels: the nutrition listed for a particular measurement of that specific product.

 All together now: “I’M SO CONFUSED.” (Wait, is it just me? Tell me it’s not just me.)

 What does it mean?

 Measure. Measure, measure, measure. Use a scale, or a measuring cup, but measure. Or count. I love getting jelly beans at Easter, and most of the time I will actually count out how many the label says is a serving. (And I’ll swipe the black licorice jelly beans because my silly hubby doesn’t like them. Imagine. Not liking black licorice jelly beans!) Eat out of bowls or off plates, not out of the container the food comes in; for example, a bag of popcorn or a bag of nuts. Drink water. (You’ll feel fuller faster and you may eat less as a result.) Recommended serving sizes tend to be based on 2,000 calorie diets; figure out roughly what your caloric need is going to be and plan accordingly. Size matters, too; a large apple and a small apple may each be an apple, however, the larger apple is probably going to be more than a serving. Understand that a serving of fresh fruit and a serving of fruit juice are not equivalent.

 Cheers! Here’s to your health!